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I’m Sure My Ex-Employer Rubbed My Body And Made Me Impotent – Benue Man Laments
Some youths in Benue State set houses and a church ablaze over allegations by some men that a syndicate was making them impotent in the Guma Local Government Area of the state. Nnongu Francis, 25, one of the men who alleged that their genitals were also affected, tells JOHN CHARLES how he thinks the problem started
How do you feel?
I’ve been feeling strange since this thing happened to me; I cannot have an erection. I don’t feel like a man again.
What happened to you?
A man who committed suicide was responsible for my problem. He touched me on the night the problem started. I was with him because he had promised to help me. He promised to help me get recruited into the Nigerian Air Force. I used to work for him on his farm. His younger brother is my friend and we used to be together. When I wanted to go for the recruitment exercise on September 24, 2020, he asked how prepared I was for the exercise and I told him I strongly believed that God would help me and that everything was in the hands of God.
What made you feel that something was done to your manhood?
The man said that since I used to help him on his farm, he would assist me. He later asked me to come to his house at night. He gave me a calabash and asked me to use it to fetch some water from a stream. When I returned from the stream, he poured something into the water and asked me to bathe with the water, which I did. Then he told me not to have sex with a woman for the next six days and I also complied. Some days later, on October 10, he called me again, and asked if I complied with the instructions he gave me. I said yes. On that day, I bathed and nothing was wrong with me.
Later in the night, which was a Saturday, he asked me to see him. When I got there, he asked for something that we call Chullai in Tiv and I said I didn’t have it but promised to get it. Unfortunately, I couldn’t get it and he asked me to come back to him that same night. He gave me N50 and directed me to where I would get Chullai. I bought it and took it to him. Then he asked me to fetch some water. He brought out a calabash and poured the water in it. He put the Chullai in the water and put some in his palm. He put something in his mouth, chewed and poured the liquid on my chest, back and forehead. He did that three times and as he was rubbing it on my forehead, he said I should hug him. I hugged him. The following morning, he took me to the place where I fetched water from and rubbed the concoction on my head, legs and shoulders, and said I could go.
What happened thereafter?
When I got home, I discovered that I could no longer have an erection and I told my neighbour about it. He told me to exercise some patience. I also called the man and told him that I could not have an erection but he told me not to worry.
The protesters have been talking about missing genitals, does that mean the problem is not about disappearance but inability to have an erection?
I can urinate but my manhood has shrunk and it is not getting hard. I explained what happened to the man’s younger brother who is my friend and he said he would ask his brother about it. Later, the man called me and said nothing would happen to me. He said it happened to some other people some years back and that he solved the problem for the victims. So he assured me that I would be fine but that I should not tell anyone about it, particularly the police because it had happened before and he admitted that it was a mistake. But I had informed my elder brother, sister and uncle.
My elder brother also asked him but he was told to be patient with them (the man’s family) till the following day. Later, they called me and said I should buy something.
For how many days did this go on?
It happened within two days, precisely October 10 and 11, 2020. But on October 11, the man committed suicide. Before then, he had called to tell me and my brother that my manhood would be restored to its normal state. He called me more than four times on that day, only for me to hear that he hanged himself the following day.
Are you saying you have not had an erection since then?
My penis is not getting hard.
Are you married?
I was married. We are separated and have one child.
How did you get to know that you could not have an erection?
Since the day he rubbed something on me, I’ve not had an erection. I have not felt sexually aroused. I have a girlfriend and when I asked her to come, I still could not have an erection. Till now, even when I wake up in the morning and I’m supposed to have an erection, I don’t have it.
When did your wife leave you?
My wife left me in October 2018 and it was because of a minor misunderstanding between us.
Were you able to have sex before the man rubbed the concoction on you?
Before the incident, I was having sex very well. Towards September ending, my girlfriend spent a whole week with me and we had sex throughout her stay. But after the incident, one of my girlfriends visited me but my penis did not respond. I’m very sure of it; I’m 100 per cent sure of what I’m saying.
Do you know if there are others with similar cases in your community?
It happened to so many people some years back and they apprehended the man responsible. He promised to restore them and he did. The family of this man pleaded with me and promised that I would have an erection again. They begged me not to tell anyone. They said if I told anyone about it, their family would be in trouble.
But now the family of the man responsible for my problem is now accusing me of killing him. They said I was only pretending and have threatened to kill me for accusing him wrongly.
Now that the person has died, what do you plan to do? Are the police aware?
The police said since the man is dead, they don’t have anything to say. They said we should talk to the family. But the family said they would sue us; they know I don’t have money.
Have you been to the hospital to see a doctor about your condition?
No, I have not gone.
What if it is a medical condition?
I have not gone to hospital but I’m not a kid that would not know when something is wrong with them.
Some buildings, including a church were burnt down by some angry youths; does it have anything to do with your case?
The man that was responsible for my impotence once said that he was an agent for the owner of the building. He said he was working for the man. The first time it happened to two men, the man begged that they should not kill him and that he would call his boss to restore their health. When they asked who his boss was, he mentioned a man in Abuja.
He called the man on the phone and they talked on the phone; the people with him heard their conversation and the man assured that he would make things right. The man has now been arrested.
Are the elders and chiefs of the community aware of all these things?
Yes, they are aware but they said they were not informed in time.
What if it is your libido that is low?
How? Before now, even if I was only washing my manhood with soap and water when bathing, I would have an erection. I have tried many things to make it hard but it is not responding.
What do you want?
All I want is for my manhood to be able to become hard again and for you to help me tell the whole world to come to my aid because I don’t know what to do.
Do you have any place in mind where you think you might get a solution?
Yes, if I wish I could get a man of God who would pray for me and restore my manhood.
There are reports that a pastor claims he has the power to treat impotence…
I went to the church and the pastor charged me N16,000 and asked me to bring some other things. He said he would need those things to heal me but I didn’t have the money so I didn’t go there again.
Is it the church that was burnt down?
Yes, that is the church.
Do you really think the pastor could help?
Yes. When I went there, I saw him attending to someone with a similar case. He said the person had lost his manhood for many years and that he would get his manhood to function properly again. The person later confirmed that his manhood had been restored. But I could not return to the man before he attacked since I didn’t have money.
Source: The PUNCH